How do I handle my divorce? We have a infant daughter.?

My Divorce is turning real nasty, my Ex is lying on top of lies. Im the petitioner for the divorce and custody issue. She responded yesterday stating she doesnt agree with anything I asked for. Like visitation times,days, and non supervisored visits. We were wed in dec '07 and she also wants spousal support. She added her own summary which is 6 pages of lies handwritten herself. She lied about me,my parents,and my sister hanging up on her. Which is not true. We know not to answer when she calls because she's a stalker type obsessed person. So her calls were unanswered. She is using my daughter as a tool because She says that I don't come around and see her, that I abandoned them. I lived with her Grandma and Mother so I didnt abandon them. I simply left her right?? And when it comes to seeing my daughter, she absolutely needs to be there at all times. Which I cant seem to enjoy because she ends up bringing our problem into the picture, and cries, gets mad, etc. She also brought up that I do drugs, and drink and drive, that im not a safe person. Will any of this be considered in court?? I dont drink and I dont do drugs. I have a clean record. Thanks!